Mentoring Minutes

Love One Another…Deeply

“Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart.” (1 Peter 1:22)

Love and Lordship in Focus…Much to the dismay of our nature and even more so to that of our fallen culture, it’s an amazing Truth that obedience and love go hand in hand!

The Greek word from where we get our word and response of confession literally means, “to agree with.” That’s powerful if you think about it. I’ve recognized that my sin(s) or fault(s) have come against God’s Truth and I’m now willing to admit them and turn in agreement with His Truth rather than my “truth” that was wrong. This is the first step in true heart change if it is Godly and sincere as we found is needed in the Corinthians passage earlier. This is true confession!

As we near the end of these “one anothers” and how we’re called and commanded to treat and not treat one another in love, we find that Peter and John, the 2 disciples that were closest to Jesus have a couple of repeated “one anothers.” However, the most repeated command is the one that sums all of these up and we touch on it today.

Peter had a lot to learn about how to truly Love…and by all indications he got the message. In his first letter to the church he writes, “Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart.” (1 Peter 1:22) It began with obedience and we know that he had some tough lessons when it came to this but under The Lord’s gracious leading, Peter was restored…and learned to love!

In 1 Peter 3:8 and 4:8 we are commanded to “…Love one another deeply, from the heart” (3:8) for “love covers a multitude of sins” (4:8). Remember Peter was the disciple who ultimately became the leader or spokesperson for the group in beginning the Church on the Day of Pentecost (Acts 2). This was the same Peter who was brash and often impulsive in his responses to Christ and others. Today we’d call Peter a “type A” personality… maybe even a AA or A+!

He was the one who proclaimed he would never forsake Christ and then denied him 3 times in the most trying time of Christ’s life. In shame he ran away and wept bitterly.

This was the same Peter that Christ restored with 3 probing questions that were essentially the same but the last one slighty different in the Greek. We find these questions in John 21:15-17 where Jesus gets to the heart of the matter for Peter…and all of us.

The first 2 times that Jesus asked Peter, “Do you love me?” the word “love” in the Greek is “agapao” which means preferring God above all other (fulfilling the 1st and greatest command) and the only way we can truly love others. Peter’s response was all he knew at that time, and especially after denying Christ, “you know that I love (phileo – brotherly, human love) you.”

The final time Jesus asked He used “phileo” for love impressing upon Peter that there was a greater love for him to still know and grow in…and that’s what Christ came to give us so we could give to others.

Peter in writing his letters to the churches is now describing the kind of Godly love, known only in Christ, that we are to extend and selflessly give to our brothers and sisters in Christ. In the first reference (1 Peter 3:8), he describes phileo for fellow believers. However, in 1 Peter 4:8, the command reveals to us that this can only be done in “agape” or Godly Love, preferring God above all others, so that we can love them no matter what!

I think Peter has learned the lesson Christ was questioning him about in John 21 and is the perfect person for the Holy Spirit to help us more fully understand this kind of Love that conceals many sins and help us grow together in the Love of Christ.

How do you love your brothers and sisters in Christ? How about those in your own family…spouse, children, extended family? How does your love for others reflect on Christ and His Love?

We are called by The Holy Spirit through Peter who learned what love actually is in direct intimate relationship with Jesus as to how to love deeply as we are loved in Christ and in all things. May this kind of love be evidence of Christ’s Love in and through us so many more will come to know Him, His salvation and Love in and through us.

Food for Thought…God’s Word is crystal clear that we can’t love apart for Him in Christ. What is your love for Him and others based on…your feelings, hormones and circumstances? Or do you deeply love from the well of God’s Word and Truth…just as He has loved you in Christ and through His Cross?

Love in Action…

  1. Spend time with God and in His Word, prayer and listening every day…begin with the Scriptures in this message.
  2. Ask The Holy Spirit to teach you.
  3. Check the “fruit” of your relationships…with God and with others…to see if they are producing a love in keeping with His Word and will.  
  4. Take time to either continue to grow in His love in and through you or change from your fleshly emotions to His Truth in Love…whichever is called for.  

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Love and Lordship Prayer Focus…Heavenly Father, the world teaches that love is a feeling and my flesh tends to run after that. Help me to understand that to love as you love…deeply…that it begins and ends with showing you that love by my obedience.  In Jesus Name. Amen.

Pray For one Another

“…pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16b-d)

Love and Lordship in Focus…Are you noticing that as we go through these “one anothers” that while the ultimate “one another” is to “Love one another” there are many different expressions of this love found in the way we treat and care for each other…and in what we avoid so that we do not treat each other wrongly.

As with all the “one anothers” this requires discipline even as we are in Christ to be disciplined in The Holy Spirit…the new man or woman…and move away from walking in the flesh…old man or woman apart from Christ. Discipline…that’s why it’s called discipleship and we are to be disciples and make disciples of Christ. I (we) can’t do that in our own strength, only in His!

With that said, we find James wrapping up his “one anothers” with a very powerful one found in the same text as our previous command to “confess our sins to one another.” He continues in James 5:16 with “…Pray for each other.” He doesn’t stop there but finishes with this encouraging truth…”the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” That’s awesome but remember we are only made righteous in Christ and our power is only found in Him and His Holy Spirit.

Jesus taught us to go so far as to even love our enemies and pray for those who would persecute and harm us (Matthew 5:44). That takes a love much greater than the emotionally driven love that most people, even those in our churches, define love by. It’s a deliberate, disciplined choice…not a feeling. This kind of praying for others with effective power and results is only done in the discipline of love and I (we) only have that as I (we) accept Christ as our Savior and Lord and then by the indwelling power of The Holy Spirit!

How are you doing when it comes to praying for others? How about praying for your enemies? What about humbling yourself to ask for prayer for yourself?

We all must admit that apart from Christ our prayers are not powerful and effective. Only as we walk in the discipline of The Holy Spirit, His Word and Love can we truly pray for others, including our enemies and those that would seek to harm us.

Food for Thought…I pray that we know Christ more so and that we can pray in earnest according to Your Word, Spirit and power in love for all others that they may know and desire to come to Him as Savior and Lord. May we also pray in this powerful faith for others and, as we confess our own sins, see the powerful moving of Your Spirit and healing and may God be glorified in all things.

Love in Action…

  1. Spend time with God and in His Word, prayer and listening every day…begin with the Scriptures in this message.
  2. Ask The Holy Spirit to teach you.
  3. Take a personal inventory of your prayer life…is it preceded by confession that places you before His Throne? 
  4. What fruit are you seeing in your prayer life? What, if anything, needs to change?

Oswald Chambers in My Utmost for His Highest, states that “Prayer does not equip us for greater works— prayer is the greater work.” How do you see prayer and how it is impacting your life and others?  

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Love and Lordship Prayer Focus…Heavenly Father, thank You for hearing all my prayers and pleas but help me to understand that when confession precedes my prayers, my prayers are more powerful and effective. Help me to follow through so my prayers accomplish all that you desire. In Jesus Name. Amen.

Confess Your Faults to One Another

Therefore confess your sins to each other… (James 5:16a)

Love and Lordship in Focus…The Greek word from where we get our word and response of confession literally means, “to agree with.” That’s powerful if you think about it. I’ve recognized that my sin(s) or fault(s) have come against God’s Truth and I’m now willing to admit them and turn in agreement with His Truth rather than my “truth” that was wrong. This is the first step in true heart change if it is Godly and sincere as we found is needed in the Corinthians passage earlier. This is true confession!

Once again, James in his matter of fact, in your face, style gets right to the point of our “one another” for today. In James 5:16a he tells us to “Confess your sins to each other…” That’s another OUCH!

You mean I need to air my dirty laundry to other believers? Evidently so. While it’s not a specific Scripture, the principle is Biblical…”Confession is good for the soul.” It is good because it not only brings my sin out of the darkness and into the light but it also helps hold me accountable to others who love The Lord and love me.

I think we do need to be discerning as to those who are mature in The Lord that we can bring our sins to them and confess. We also must remember that as we do so, and as others confess their sins to us, this is not for gossip or to look down on anyone but to grow together in Christ and as the rest of the context of this James passage states, “so that we may be healed.”

What sin(s) may be keeping you from being healed? Humble yourself before The Lord and others (certainly takes humility to confess my sins and failures to others) and trust that He will honor that in forgiveness and healing.

Especially be willing to confess, say you’re sorry and ask forgiveness of those that you have specifically and/or intentionally wronged. In this way healing and restoration can take place to strengthen you (and them) as disciples and together build up Christ’s Church.

One caution: If you do find those that are not mature and discerning to handle sins confessed by wise and careful to find others who are…while the same time not using it as an excuse not to confess your sins to others nor to stop loving them. Be wise but certainly be obedient.

There are 3 confessions in Scripture and I need to be able to mature in making all of them as needed. First I need to daily confess before others that Christ is the Lord of my life and live accordingly. In humbly doing so, I need to confess my sins to Him and know that as I do so with heartfelt remorse and conviction that I’m forgiven. Finally, and this may actually be the most difficult one because it exposes me to other fallible human beings…as our “one another” command for today reminds us, I must confess my sin(s) to others to help hold me accountable and so that I may be healed. We definitely need The Lord to help us to do these daily and/or as needed so we can grow in Christ and help others do the same.

What keeps you from confessing your sins to mature believers? Do you have at least one person you can go to and trust to do so? What keeps you from being one that others can confess their sins to (if that’s the case)? How can you become a believer who will confess your sin(s) and be healed and set free as well as one to whom others can come to in faith and with trust? This is what God is looking for in His Church and Kingdom.

We must remember that confession never comes easy and in reality it’s quite difficult in our natural fleshly pride. However, the old adage, “Confession is good for the soul,” as mentioned earlier, is actually a Biblical principle that we’d all be wise to follow. Where are you when it comes to confessing your sins to The Lord and others?

Food for Thought…The freedom you’ll experience will far outweigh the pain and difficulty of mustering the courage and then following through in obedience to this command!

Love in Action…

  1. Spend time with God and in His Word, prayer and listening every day…begin with the Scriptures in this message.
  2. Ask The Holy Spirit to teach you.
  3. Pray and ask The Holy Spirit to convict you and show you anything that you need to bring before The Lord and then follow through in confession.
  4. Pray and ask The Holy Spirit to convict you and show you anything that you need to confess to others and then follow through with them as well.

Whew! I told you this “one another” would not be easy but as I’ve shared, and know that much of it was from my own experience, the freedom and laying down the burdens of unconfessed sin is totally worth it. Be willing to push through by His grace and try it today…you won’t be sorry!  

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Love and Lordship Prayer Focus…Heavenly Father, confessing my faults and sins does not come naturally to me. Thank You for providing Your Holy Spirit as I believe in Christ that empowers me to humble myself and agree with Your Truth in open confession to those I’ve wronged. In Jesus Name. Amen.