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God’s Covenant Order and His Love


Once again God makes it very obvious in His Word that there is a priority when it comes to love and relationships.  And it begins with Him!  He even uses the words “first” and “greatest,” and that should compel us to respond with the same priority and urgency when it comes to love for Him and others.  Reiterating Dr. Tony Evans’s words, “Our God is a Covenant-making and Covenant-keeping God and every Covenant has an order.”  So based on God’s Word, what is the order...
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A Tale of Two Loves


Hesed/Agape – The Real Truth About Real Love We’ve spent quite a bit of time over the last few weeks discussing the brokenness of relationships and the lusts and selfishness of porneia and pride that destroys them.  It’s time we shifted to what God’s Word has to say about love.  Don’t miss this—God’s love is a commitment, a choice, and an act of the will.  Feelings aside, we choose to love and, as a matter of Biblical principles, that’s exactly what we’re called to do...
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Self and Lust – A Biblical Story and Modern Movie Mash-up


I present the Love and Lordship series multiple times a year.  In our discussion on agape and porneia we view a clip from Fireproof: The Movie and I connect it with King David’s adultery with Bathsheba and subsequent murder of her husband, Uriah (one of his top lieutenants).  A few years ago as I was presenting this The Holy Spirit gave me some insights that have helped many in their battle against porneia and other sins. We view the movie clip where Caleb (Kirk Cameron’s character) is looking at some pictures...
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The Cookie Jar – A Satire on Love


This may come across as corny or silly, but I have so many that come up to me after sharing this—sometimes even months or years later—and share their appreciation for this illustration.  So here it is… Picture yourself as a child, or maybe as a parent with your children, gathered around the dinner table nearly finished with the meal.  The children in the picture are struggling to clean up their plate, so mom or dad grabs a jar out of the pantry and takes the...
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Loving Discipline vs Lustful Desires


We must be brutally honest with ourselves if we are to live as Christ’s disciples and build His Kingdom in loving relationships. Because as I share this couple’s story I have to say that this is not at all uncommon.  As a matter of fact it is very much so, and all too, common. One Couple’s Battle with Porn/Porneia They had been in my office several times and, while there was improvement, it was evident that there was still a lot of tension and struggle. ...
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